I often find myself sitting around waiting for life to ‘show up’ in a way that suits me and my beliefs. I’m beginning to conclude there is not enough time available to wait for that version of life to be released. I’m not sure my stars will ever align.
The hard truth that we need to accept is that life rarely, if ever, plays out the way we believe it should. We always project a picture, a belief of how things will work out that seldom makes an appearance.
The major issue with the posture of ‘waiting on things’ to be the way they should is that it results in standing still, no movement. It creates a sense of paralysis that will only shift when we perceive positive reinforcement of our own ideology at play. I would not define that as coping very well.
Inventor Charles F. Kettering said, “You will never stub your toe standing still. The faster you go, the more chance there is of stubbing your toe, but the more chance you have of getting somewhere.”
What this important truth reveals is that when we attempt to avoid pain and struggle, we make no progress.
Author and leadership expert John Maxwell says, “Life is filled with ups and downs. The problem is that what most of us want is ups and ups. That’s not possible.”
So the future we project (the way life is supposed to be) is almost always filled with ups and ups, and no pain or struggle. That also represents a future with little or no progress.
Unless we change our coping mechanism we will never make a difference in the world. We will be observers and bystanders. The idea that we can avoid pain or struggle by simply trying to do so, creates more pain than we can imagine, which is the very thing we’re trying to avoid.
If you are waiting for life to supernaturally restructure in a way that suits you, you may want to grab a bucket of popcorn and settle in.